If you are someone or someone you know is disabled, you know first hand that going about every day life can be a struggle and it is okay if they seem to be stand offish towards people and things because they are still trying to come to terms with their own life as well as adjusting the situation into other peoples, but they still have needs like everyone else.
Trying to enter into the dating scene is hard for everyone, but it can be especially hard for someone who is battling a disability, because of the fact they have no confidence in themselves anymore and feel like no person would want to be with them.
If they are feeling this way, yes, it is normal and no, it is not true that no one would want to be with them.
Having someone take them out to an event, bar or club to get them back into the swing of being around people is a good place to start.
When it comes to dating it is extremely important for them to be open and upfront about what they can and cannot do with the person they are talking to, not just for the fact of informing them, but that way there are no surprises if the night goes well.
Sex can be a little bit of a struggle when you are first getting back into it, it is something that can be embarrassing and a little uncomfortable when you are not sure how to do it anymore depending on the disability and what it has affected.
Being with someone who has compassion is a major component in this case, because you need someone who is not going to judge you, but try to understand and make sure that the best outcome is formed for both parties.
For a lot of men, it is important to remember that there are more ways to pleasure a woman than just using your parts below the belt and during a time of trauma it can be hard to think about things in a positive way, but ninety percent of women cannot get off by penetration, so this is a good thing for you.
In fact, buying a vibrator to use on your female partner would make a lot of sense, especially if your woman loves clitoral stimulation. Regardless of how limited you are below the belt due to your disability, having the extra help in the form of a vibrator ensures that she genuinely enjoys her time with you in the bedroom.
For women, it is a good thing to remember that a man’s g-spot is located in a different area than women’s and even if they have no feeling in a certain part of their body, they can still be pleasured by that.
When it comes to pleasuring yourself, it can be easier to figure out what you can still do, what you can feel and what makes you happy in the comfort of your own hand before you decide to get in bed with someone else, so, there is no questions or guessing.
Having a disability can change a lot of things in your life and it will take a while for you to get used to the changes, the important thing is to not let the negativity control you, but instead to find a solution, rather than dwelling on the bad, always look for the good!